The balance between goal setting and personal acceptance
Are you the guy who sets ambitious goals for himself and then relentlessly pursues them? Good on you! Ambition is a critical ingredient in success. However, your quest for excellence can work against you if you’re not careful.
By continually setting and seeking goals, are you telling yourself that you’re not good enough at the moment? Are you setting yourself up for disappointment because if you achieve your goals and reach the pinnacle of success, there’s nothing more to do?
It may sound counterintuitive to suggest that achieving goals can actually be bad for you. But it’s a fact: some people get so caught up in trying to prove their worth through accomplishments that they lose sight of their inner value. They become so invested in proving themselves that they don’t take the time to enjoy their success, and then they’re back at it, setting new goals and striving again — never resting on their laurels or appreciating what they have.
Here’s how to find the right balance between goal setting and personal acceptance.
Understand the difference between goals and standards
Standards are what we must do, goals are what we want to do. To succeed, it is vital to have both. Standards are the bare minimum that we accept for ourselves. They keep us from falling behind and becoming complacent. Goals, on the other hand, are our ambitions. They inspire us to reach higher and achieve more. We need both standards and goals to lead a successful life. Standards keep us grounded and focused, while goals motivate us to reach our full potential. By striving to meet our standards and goals, we can achieve anything we set our minds to.
Set realistic goals that you can achieve
New Year’s resolutions are a time-honored tradition, but our lofty goals are often quickly forgotten. If you’re determined to make a change this year, start by setting realistic goals that you can achieve. Aiming too high can be discouraging, so focus on small steps leading to lasting change. For example, if you want to get in shape, start by committing to exercise three times a week. Or if you’re looking to improve your finances, begin by creating a budget and sticking to it. Remember, lasting change doesn’t happen overnight, so be patient and keep at it. With diligence and determination, you can achieve any goal you set your mind to.
Give yourself permission to make mistakes and learn from them.
The best way to learn is by doing, which means making mistakes. Making mistakes is okay because that’s how we learn and grow. If we never made any mistakes, we’d never get anywhere. So go ahead and make some mistakes — it’s the only way to learn and become the best you can be. And when you do make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up about it. Just learn from it and move on. You’ll be better for it in the end.
Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem
It’s easy to get caught up in day-to-day life and forget to celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. But every accomplishment is worth celebrating because it’s a step in the right direction. So, take a moment to celebrate your success, whether you just got a new job, ran your first marathon, or finally finished that project you’ve been working on for months. Pour yourself a glass of champagne, buy yourself a new outfit, or just take a few minutes to reflect on your achievements. Remember, every accomplishment is worth celebrating!
Let go of the need to be perfect.
We live in a world that is constantly telling us to strive for perfection. We see perfect bodies in magazines, perfect houses on TV, and perfect lives on social media. It’s no wonder many of us feel like we can never measure up. But the truth is that perfection is an impossible goal. And even if we could achieve it, it would be incredibly dull. Life is messy, and imperfection is what makes it interesting. So instead of chasing after an unattainable ideal, let go of the need to be perfect. Embrace your flaws and imperfections, and learn to love yourself just the way you are.
Embrace your flaws and quirks as part of what makes you unique
There’s nothing more frustrating than feeling like you have to pretend to be someone you’re not. We all have our flaws and quirks, and trying to hide them is exhausting. It’s time to embrace them as part of what makes you unique. After all, your imperfections make you fascinating and attractive to others. Studies have shown that people with flaws are perceived as more trustworthy and down-to-earth. So instead of worrying about being perfect, focus on being yourself. It’s the best way to find happiness and success in life.
So there you have it! Some tips to help you start setting better goals for yourself in the New Year. And remember, these are just guidelines — not hard and fast rules you must follow to the letter. The most important thing is finding a system or method of goal-setting that works for YOU. So what are you waiting for? Get out there and start crushing those resolutions!
Originally published at https://davidbrownonline.com on December 19, 2022.